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Conversations of Care and Concern

As people we wear rose colored glasses for the most important people in your lives. The number one person we do this for is ourselves. This is why some people are stuck on the side of the #Improve2019 road. There is a large boulder sitting in the middle of the road and it is something internal. Everyone on the side of the road can see it, but you cannot. The way to eliminate it is to acknowledge it and slowly the boulder will move towards the side of the road.
 
Discussing a personal barrier to success as a large rock seems harsh, but for those of us in workforce development we know the secret to success is usually internal.  We also know that until a person actually knows and deals with that real thing, everything else will be going in circles. Most often someone cannot deal with that barrier until someone intervenes.

I hate to use the word intervention. That does not really describe what is necessary. It is rather a care and concern conversation from one individual to another. The conversation needs to be direct and to the point. There cannot be any language that can be misinterpreted. This is what is necessary. If you are the person on the journey, wouldn’t you want someone to tell you the truth? Wouldn’t you want someone to help you along?
 
Another key to the success of this is to truly understand the person is not going to jump up and down with appreciation after you have this conversation. There will be emotions. A person may not be receptive at first, but it is okay.  Sometimes these words take time to really sink in. Remind the person this conversation comes from a place to help the person. Lastly, be calm. This helps you stay direct.

Keep the journey alive into the second half of 2019 and stay motivated.

~Karen Cirincione
Email:kcirincione@gmail.com
Linked In: https://linkedin.com/in/karenjcirincione
Twitter:@kcirincione

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